Let’s face it, life is different today than it was last week. It is different for us in so many ways that none of us really saw coming. It is scary and I know personally that I am struggling at times to deal with this new world that we are currently living in. So first off I want to take a look at why it is scary because if we don’t face our fear we cannot get through them.
First and foremost is health. My health and the health of those I care for. A little over a month ago I had a dream vacation where I went to Spain to visit with my Uncle’s who had just moved there for a year. My trip was well documented through my social media accounts and was an absolutely amazing time! The spread of coronavirus had really just began and was a concern, but not too extreme yet when I came home. Very quickly however both of my Uncle’s were diagnosed with this virus. They are both in the high risk age group, but are fortunately very healthy. At the time of this post both of them are in good spirits and optimistic about their recovery. This then led to me getting tested.
I have a similar mindset as many others my age, I will be ok! If I get sick it will pass and should not have an immediate risk to me. This is fairly easy to shrug off and just go about my day, but my ex-wife and mother to my daughter is in a high risk category. My mother and father as well are also in a high risk category and as I started looking through the list of people that I am in contact with on a regular basis, the list of harm that this virus can cause to those around me was overwhelming. I quickly got myself tested and cut myself off from most contact with people, at least directly, and began to do what most of us are doing; I watched a lot of tv, talked on the phone a bunch, browsed social media and utilized a variety of video conferencing software to stay connected. At first this was ok, but in very short order this actual began to make things worse.
Even though my social media is filled with a bunch of health nuts that are working hard to support others through this time, and most of the people I was in contact with were trying to be of love and service to those in their community, the realization of life being permanently altered grew in my mind. The news and social media about the spread of this virus began to take over and fear took a strong hold on me very quickly. I knew that I needed to limit all streams of information into my life instantly, or at least thought this would be best. So I unplugged.
I took this to an extreme. I found that it was the main topic of conversation with just about anyone that I spoke to, and my fears where exasperated in each conversation. Suddenly in my mind everyone was getting it and going to die! I know, I am an extremist and this is not the case, but this is where my mind went.
I limited the amount of news that I watched and social media browsing to 1 hour each day. I refused to get sucked in to more of the fear that is out there and just wanted to know facts. I checked in via text message with immediate family, especially my daughter, and spent a lot of time in reflection. This was good for me, but also led me to some difficult realizations. I started to see where my priorities had been placed and where they really should be. I stopped talking to people close to me because I needed to focus on me and the things that were vital to me. I know there is more than one person out there that has been hurt by my distancing and for that I am sorry, but I know that I need to focus on the things in my immediate orbit.
This isolation has also forced me to step back from a few obligations I have made through my businesses. The daily stress crippled me and I allowed it to prevent me from being the committed trainer, coach, librarian, and web designer that I can be. This happens though when you let fear control you!
So What Happens Next?
Throughout this time of reflection I have become complacent in certain areas of life. It is easy when you do not have to wake up to meet a client at 5am or be to work by 7. You can lounge around all day and be useless when you do not have your child with you, or fall into a puddle of depression because she is gone while you await results. I hate feeling weak however, and hope that my brief sabbatical will be understood by all, because it is done to an extent!
Today I am setting out to keep myself occupied and keep up my work while also allowing myself to stay at a safe distance from fear and from people until this virus is curbed. The plan I have is simple, I need to make a plan! Then I need to follow through with this plan to the best of my ability to survive the mental anguish this isolation can create! Below I am going to work on creating my simple plan of attack to maintain my lifestyle and be of love and service to those around me (in real life and virtually).
5am- wake up
- make coffee, shower, stretch
6am- workout 1
- Thanks to my friends I will be able to do deadlifts in my living room during this time!
- 100 deadlifts of varying weights from 135-225
7am- OCR Librarian Work/Breakfast
- Since I will still stay off of social media for the most part, except to deliver content, I will use my blog to serve as my outlet to the world. Each day I will see what news there is, keep things updated at least from my perspective, and then add a brief 4 movement body weight workout for people to do. This will only suffer if my day job requires me to do more.
8am- Librarian work
-This is when I will focus on any and all things I can and need to do to support my staff and students.
11am- Workout 2
- I will make sure to do a cardio session every day. Minimum of a 3 mile run
1pm- Librarian work
-I will finish off anything that needs to be done for the day with my day job
3pm- Training Work
- I will continue to work on my virtual training platforms through Spartan and Powerhouse Gym Baldwinsville. I will be able to answer emails all day, but this will be dedicated time to it all
-We all need to get outside and not stay in our homes. I will get out and try to walk around a bit. Nothing too extensive here, just a leisurely walk
5pm- Daddy Daughter Time
-Even though I will text and FaceTime with my daughter throughout the day, until I am able to see her in person, this time will be dedicated to talking with her!
7pm- Video Conference
-I will have regular video conferences with friends to maintain a level of normality.
Now this is just what I am thinking for now, and is subject to change, but I need structure. It has been all over the news and social media about doing this, but not too many are giving examples. If you have not done this for yourself as of yet, I strongly recommend that you do! Use my example if you want, but we have to do what we can to create a level of normality in our lives!
If you are struggling, anything like I have been, please do not hesitate to email me at email@example.com. I have been ignoring all social media, so email is the best way to get a hold of me!
We are in a time where we need to stay together, but isolate. Where priorities will become apparent and frivolity will become a thing of the past. Stick close to the most important things in your life and help who you can where you can. This situation is scary for most of us (should be all) and I know we are all doing our best to navigate these uncharted waters. My only hope is that we find a way to grow stronger. Yes, we will have to come together, but we cannot grow stronger until we cut away some of our weaknesses! Spend time in reflection, maintaining health, and sanity. The quality of our thinking determines the quality of our lives, and right now our thinking can and will be contaminated by fear. Set yourself up to overcome those fears and embrace this change and challenge to grow in any way you can!